Humans are special. We have a mind that can imagine. With imagination we can, without moving, travel through space and time, conjure up situations that do not exist in reality. It is what separates humanity from the rest of nature. The male and female, both see world differently. Not because we have different bodies, but because we have different minds. But, our minds can expand. How? By seeing the world from the other’s point of view.
This can be achieved through humility. HUMILITY BRINGS OBEDIENCE. Animals fight to defend their bodies. Humans curse to defend their imagination of themselves. This imagined notion of who we are, and how others are supposed to see us, is called aham, ego. Aham constantly seeks validation from the external world. Valuing your own self without seeking validation helps being humble. This helps you obey and respect the other as you see the world as it is. This helps you grow and improve your relationships.
At 9 yrs of age, I found my feet around the kitchen: peeling, cutting, churning, pickling, steaming, roasting, frying, pounding, mixing, kneading, experiencing various textures, aromas, flavours and chemistry. My senses became familiar with the secret of spices, and every kind of nourishment provided by the plant. This was due to my obedience to my mother.
From a toddler to a teenager, I found myself first clinging on to my father’s shoulders, then seated on his lap, and finally following him around, observing him engage with hundreds of clients. I learnt how to strike a conversation with professionals, market, advertise, bargain, buy, sell, make a deal, be an expert, and have a positive mindset. This was due to my obedience to my father.
Now, I know the kitchen world of my mother and the business world of my father. This is how the mind expands. I’m not only a seeker of wisdom but, a transmitter of wisdom too. Today, I’m a homemaker as well as a working professional.
All I had to do was to learn to be humble so as to learn to obey. This was possible only because my parents encouraged me, glorified my potentials without critiquing me often. They sought to methods where I would respond and not react. I saw them practice humility and I had only to follow their methods.
I saw and am living both the worlds as I’m trained to see from the other’s point of view. I’m a Psychologist now and I believe I’ve expanded my mind.
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