Expand Your Mind

Humans are special. We have a mind that can imagine. With imagination we can, without moving, travel through space and time, conjure up situations that do not exist in reality. It is what separates humanity from the rest of nature. The male and female, both see world differently. Not because we have different bodies, but because we have different minds. But, our minds can expand. How? By seeing the world from the other’s point of view.

This can be achieved through humility. HUMILITY BRINGS OBEDIENCE. Animals fight to defend their bodies. Humans curse to defend their imagination of themselves. This imagined notion of who we are, and how others are supposed to see us, is called aham, ego. Aham constantly seeks validation from the external world. Valuing your own self without seeking validation helps being humble. This helps you obey and respect the other as you see the world as it is. This helps you grow and improve your relationships.

At 9 yrs of age, I found my feet around the kitchen: peeling, cutting, churning, pickling, steaming, roasting, frying, pounding, mixing, kneading, experiencing various textures, aromas, flavours and chemistry. My senses became familiar with the secret of spices, and every kind of nourishment provided by the plant. This was due to my obedience to my mother.

From a toddler to a teenager, I found myself first clinging on to my father’s shoulders, then seated on his lap, and finally following him around, observing him engage with hundreds of clients. I learnt how to strike a conversation with professionals, market, advertise, bargain, buy, sell, make a deal, be an expert, and have a positive mindset. This was due to my obedience to my father.

Now, I know the kitchen world of my mother and the business world of my father. This is how the mind expands. I’m not only a seeker of wisdom but, a transmitter of wisdom too. Today, I’m a homemaker as well as a working professional.

All I had to do was to learn to be humble so as to learn to obey. This was possible only because my parents encouraged me, glorified my potentials without critiquing me often. They sought to methods where I would respond and not react. I saw them practice humility and I had only to follow their methods.

I saw and am living both the worlds as I’m trained to see from the other’s point of view. I’m a Psychologist now and I believe I’ve expanded my mind.

Cut the OPTIONS out! PLEASE.

For decades now, we’ve become the fallout generation.
Falling out of jobs, relationships, marriage, career paths, etc.

WHY?

Ever since the colonial times, humans have felt under siege, forced to explain themselves using specific templates, make ideas, beliefs and opinions more tangible, more concrete, more structured, more homogeneous, more historical, more geographical, less psychological, less emotional, to render oneself as the MASTERS of the world.

Result? Rise of ‘options strategies’ Consequence? Rise of a FALLOUT generation.

The fallout of this pressure is the need to locate matters of faith in a particular spot. The timeless thus becomes timebound and the universal becomes particular . What used to once be a matter of faith becomes an egoistical war zone where courts now have to intervene.

What am I talking about? Relationships. Disturbance in this area lends tremors EVERYWHERE else!

With the rise and availability of options people have become fearless to be a fallout. Resulting in loneliness , depression and anxiety.

Everyone wants to be right in a world where adjustment, allowance, accommodation and affection are seen as signs of weakness, even manipulation!

What should be done? Learn to let go. DROP the options.

Sort out the DEMONS from your past before BEGINNING.

It’s been a while, you’ve clouded your thoughts with the NEW, brushing aside any disturbing memory that waves a ‘hello!’ in your dreams or moments that seem to be cloaked in the robes you’ve discarded, and you think you are ready for a NEW beginning

That’s what looked radical, right? Then why are you dead at 25 to be buried at 65?

Most people let their dreams die a young death and have a funeral at an old age. They choose to hurriedly move past a heartbreaking event fearing pain and jump to the NEW to fill in their timelines.

Result: failure. I say, “Be a failure NOT a loser.”

Be attentive to the demons from your past for it to not lurk in your present. It is when you put in the effort to sort out these demons that you embark upon a PROMISING new beginning.

Seek professional help. Friends and family are MOSTLY in sync with what you say. So, get an unbiased opinion.

Time heals. Yes. But, if you wait too long, it’ll be a tragedy. If you move on too quickly, it’ll be disastrous. An expert can help you remain mobile and equip you with tools to not just be at peace with your past but even help you sort it out!

DON’T drag ahead/move on. March forth with expectancy.

Success leaves CLUES. Follow!

Success leaves CLUES. Follow!

We need guidance & training today more than ever before! We live in times where nobody is anybody’s. But, you MUST find a #mentor When you continue to do the right thing with a desire and receptiveness in your heart to improve–you’ll receive heavenly guidance.

These are times where we see around us marriages crumbling, relationships getting bitter, bankruptcy, joblessness and diseases on the swell. Why? How is it that our ancestors could make it happen but we cannot? I repeat, “Success leaves clues. FOLLOW!”. If you are finding yourself in a mess, follow the footsteps of those who have succeeded.

If I asked you, ‘Do you want to succeed?’, you would roar a YES. My follow up question, ‘Do you EXPECT to succeed?’ and your lips are sealed. What is it that you are doing RIGHT to expect success ? Expect success in order to succeed.

Readers, I appeal to you to not measure your success with the abundance in your bank account alone. If you are living healthy, with an assurance that NEVER AGAIN will money be a problem, with you continuing to have MORE goals and you have MADE a family–you ARE successful!

DON’T just be grateful be fearless to ASK for the fullness of your destiny. Then work to achieve it.

Wake up Expecting. This is Your day.

Wake up Expecting. This is Your day.

Life is like a suspense thriller movie–the end to which we all want to know but wish not to be told before it’s time. It spoils the fun, doesn’t it? You enjoy the expectancy. To be in the swing of unraveling events and thumping your fists when wrong and kicking your heels with a fist launch in the air when right.

What am I saying? Well, each day, when you wake up, you can expect to get the deal you’ve been working on, the job you’ve interviewed for, meeting the right person, the healing to start….

You might say, ‘Ruchi, but I’m not sure if it could happen. I’ve been suffering for years and don’t see myself cured; I’ve been rejected 30 times; my husband abandoned me;…’

I’d like you to expect anyhow! I’m not asking you to be positive I’m asking you to enhance the quality of your life. Go out there and continue to do the right thing! Expect that today is the day when you would be answered. Today is YOUR DAY!

Uncertainties is Life’s thriller plot for you to enjoy. Try not figuring it out. It’s not always about being positive. Just don’t be tired of doing the right thing. Enhance the quality of your life for it to unfold something worthy.

Your attitude is a change-maker.

Two Powerful Words.

Replace SORRY with THANK YOU to change how the world looks at you.

Words have power. The more you apologize (like ALL the time for anything and everything) the more you gaslight yourself. – A lesson I’m greatful I’ve learnt without further delay.

Even after leaving for a meeting way before I should, I got delayed by 15 mins. How bad could that be? Well, if you’ve got only 30 mins to make a pitch, you know how ugly it is!

Instead of losing my nerve (like I would in the past); on my way, I started thinking about the power of gratitude- that I could put to use to deal with the situation.

“You were expected here at 12”, came a piercing arrow like reply to my ‘Good Afternoon’ greetings.

“Thank you for waiting for me!”, I smiled.

The official, too, now, smiled back. The cabin felt more comfortable and the official more welcoming.

Had I apologized, I would have given her the allowance to believe that I’m not punctual and this one negative impact would have made her lose the interest my proposal had generated before my arrival.

These two words, ‘Thank You’, made an affirmative impact on her to help me deliver well and come out with a successful deal.

Well, ‘Thank You’ alone isn’t enough to help you succeed. But, a feeling of gratitude can certainly help.